Adult Virgins Anonymous
By Amber Crewe
Sweet, awkward, relatable, all the things that come with losing your virginity.
Book Review, no spoilers I swear!!!
Published: Hodder & Stoughton, Coronet (6 Aug. 2020) in ebook. Paperback, 21st Jan 2021
Firstly I would like to thank Netgalley as well as Hodder books for my ARC in exchange of an honest review. Just from reading the blurb I knew I wanted to read this book, it's the type of books I enjoy. I was also interested in the fact that the romance it about virgin adults which I feel isn't talked about a lot in books.
So if you're looking for romance, humour, sex and all things about the first time then this is a book you need to add to your list!
But before I tell you anymore about my thoughts, I guess I should tell you what it is about.
Are you still a virgin? Want to talk about it in a safe space?
Meetings every other Tuesday.
You're not alone.
Kate Mundy's life is not going to plan. Nearing thirty, she's been made redundant from her job, her oldest friends have quietly left her behind, and she can barely admit her biggest secret: she's never even been on a date, let alone taken her underwear off with a member of the opposite sex.
Freddie Weir has spent most of his twenties struggling severe OCD and anxiety, and now his only social interactions consist of comic book signings and fending off intrusive questions from his weird flatmate Damian. There's no way Freddie could ever ask a girl out and now he's wondering if this is the way it might be forever.
When Freddie and Kate meet at a self-help group for adult virgins, they think they might just be able to help each other out so they can both get on with finding their real romantic destinies.
But might these two have more in common than just their lack of experience?
I loved this book!!!
I loved the concept of adult virgins. It's fresh, funny and honest.
I was hooked by this book and found it an easy read that was entertaining and real. I would have read more!
For starters. Did you know that the average age a person loses there virginity in England is 17. I looked it up, to me that seems very young. But also I think that anyone over the age of twenty-one is no longer a virgin except that isn't true for anyone and it definitely isn't true for Kate and Freddie who have been living with the 'shame' of virginity for years and believe that there lack of sexual experience is the thing that is holding them back in there lives.
Kate is the shy, socially awkward woman who struggles to talk to men, her lack of experience and never being asked out by a man has left her to think she is undesirable, that no man will ever want to have sex with her. Unable to talk about it for the 'shame' Kate keeps it all in, making her think she is alone.
Freddie is just like Kate, he is equally as awkward and a bit of an oddball as his OCD gets in his way, the lack of understanding and women not seeing past it has led him to avoid women and relationships all together. Thinking that if he finally lost his virginity he will somehow be better, be a different person and not the oddball in the family or in his group of friends.
Freddie and Kate cross paths at the meeting and have the common thoughts/ feelings that everyone around them, friends and family are moving on in there lives, marriage, exciting sex lives and babies seem to be everywhere and if anything, it makes both characters feel all the more single and lonely.
I loved how there was a group where characters of different sexual orientation spoke about sex and what it means to them and that virginity isn't something to be ashamed of, or afraid of, its an experience. One that everyone comes across in there life. The group members being from all different backgrounds and ages only adds to the diversity of virginity and that not everyone over the age of twenty is a virgin, normalising it and starting a conversation about sex and relationships in general.
Another thing I really enjoyed was how mental health and body insecurities were talked about, how in fact there is nothing to be ashamed of, that insecurities and mental health can be talked about, that the right person will listen and understand you, make you feel comfortable and not a 'freak'. These are just the things Freddie and Kate's relationship does, they fit each other perfectly.
Contents: love, romance, humour, mental health & scenes/references to sex.
Rating: 3.5* out of 5
A great, easy read, full of warmth.
Till next time,
You can now pre-order Adult Virgins Anonymous now in ebook (6/08/20)
You can also pre-order it in paperback (21/01/21)